PyratePhil

LMAO@'chucks - yep, been there, done that. When I was learning them, I was constantly coming home looking like I had just met a rabid puma - bruises on the head, shoulders, back and groin (don't ask - it was a required movement); abrasions on the wrists; bleeding knuckles... Whoever invented those things had a truly warped sense of humor! Best thing to do - if you're ever being mugged, just hand a pair to the mugger...

Beyond my capacity, perhaps, to reach them - in which case, for all intents it's a waste of my time to try. Geez, they changed the code again??? I thought I was still a pragmatist... “The man who is a pessimist before forty-eight knows too much; if he is an optimist after it he knows too little” - Mark Twain

AIRGUN registration, Matusalem? *shakes head* Wow...what are things coming to? The black powder ban is silly enough... Well, that's like nunchakus - banned in a whole slew of states. Right, like I'm Bruce Lee on steroids.

I don't think anything is. Even science is based upon faith - faith that the universe has to always obey their "laws". And at least in my own, personal, me-myself-and-I sense, it IS repeatable. It works for ME. Like I said, I'm not here to bury Caesar, but to praise him - I'm not out to convert anyone to my Way (mainly because, truthfully, I don't think many could handle it) in these discussions - merely providing brainfood. I know what works for me and have no need to sway anyone of its reality. According to that definition then, I know because I've proved it and don't require faith. Tell that to the 32 kids at VA Tech - they could have used some awareness training, I believe. Having taught in one capacity or another for over 30 years, I used to believe that. Now? Now I KNOW there are some that are just beyond reach. Somehow, I doubt it also. Weeeeeeellllllllll... With the swordsman - it's one of those "you have to experience it to believe it" kind of things. While I generally agree in a theoretical sense that you can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink, I also have experience in certain martial arts techniques that give NO choice but compliance. There is no mental process of "should I give in?" or "I'm going to resist this as long as possible and keep struggling until the end" - no, with these techniques applied correctly your dance partner ceases to struggle. And I don't believe that in certain cases there is a struggle for the intent to take hold at all. It's an automatic reaction of the human body and mind to a certain input, a specific genetic-patterned recognition of a threat display perhaps, that triggers acquiescence. Yes, I did and still do agree - with the proviso that, just as planets are influenced by their satellites, we are influenced by those around us. The child changes the parent as much, if not more, than the parent changes the child. Just look at me - before I raised my two boys I was trim, handsome and possessed a full head of hair. Of course you are. I'm just wearing that red suit with the horns and the pitchfork... No, not Satan Clause... Coolness. Agreed. I kind of figured that whatever spiritual belief you professed, it would turn out that you followed the spirit and not the structure - good for you. "Religion" is a curse upon mankind - "belief" a blessing.

Actually, to echo Blackfoot's sentiment - It's a shame that 32 lives were lost - ...it's just a shame that the 33rd one wasn't lost first. Re: the gun control hot-button- One thing that people often don't realize in discussions that are so emotionally charged is that the gun is just the tool, the technology used to deliver the will of the assailant. If it weren't a gun, it would be a martyr with c4 strapped to their chest, or someone with bioweapons, or someone with a very large cutlass, or... Don't focus on the weapon - focus on the weapon-bearer, and how you can stop them. People will ALWAYS have access to some type of weapon - banning that weapon, even if effective, will only lead to more ingenuity in acquiring even more dangerous ones. Learn to deal with the mind of the assailant first, then you can learn to deal with their tools.

Life is funny like that sometimes, isn't it?

This is the posting I made on one of my martial arts boards on Monday... Today news came of the horrible massacre at Virginia Tech - 32 people shot by a lone gunman, who then took his own life. While I understand emotions are made raw by events such as this, I believe it is up to us a martial artists to learn from them and apply that knowledge to ourselves, our friends and family and our students. First thing - there were reportedly 2 separate shooting incidents, 2 hours apart. How did the alarm go out? By email. First big mistake. There is video from a student standing/crouching in a doorway. The video was taken with his phone, and you can hear the gunshots. Toward the end of the 30-second or so clip, he appears to be moving in the direction of the gunshots, stops and says "whoa!", then turns and retreats. A professor took the time to set up a video camera pointing out a window in an attempt to capture the action. There was, as is usual at times like this, mass confusion. But the blaming and the promises of inquiries have already started. Now for my first impression: How the HELL can you have time, and enough concern, to record videos of this stuff? Isn't there a shred of humanity left, of wanting to perhaps HELP the victims, instead of recording their deaths and maybe selling the resulting footage to CNN? Doesn't anyone have the balls to fight back against a lone gunman? At one point, the gunman entered a classroom, shot the professor in the head, then started randomly(?) shooting. One student said they all ducked under the desks and hit the floor. Now if this was a class of (I'm supposing) at least a dozen students, WHY couldn't they all gang-rush this guy? Yes, some may have been shot - but isn't that better than laying down and waiting for the bullet with your name on it? And where's that security expert now? The one that wanted to teach the passive acceptance mode of dealing with gunmen in schools? Remember after the Pennsylvania Dutch school shooting - some guy came out and, I believe, actually got a contract to teach a few thousand students that they should meekly follow the orders of a gunman and never resist, because - who knows? - it might make him mad. I'm sorry, but this really has me irked. I see similar (but of course, not as tragic) events happening everyday, even in the sleepy little burg that I live in. People just don't have IT anymore. We've "evolved" into a society of vidiots - we'd rather film a fellow humans death than try to help them. We rely on email and cellphones to get the breaking news about a nutjob on a shooting rampage. Our noses are buried so deeply in phones and computers (and yes, I'm one of them) that we can't SEE straight anymore. WHO sends out emails to warn of a gunman? Obviously, the staff of VA Tech. The more I see of events like this, both the mental disturbances of the gunman and the apathetic responses of the victims, the more I just want to keep going higher up the mountain to get away from what is laughingly called "civilization".

Since the act of observation denotes a certain intent and (at least to me) intent involves giving off energy in a certain direction, I still maintain that observation changes not only the observer (in ways such as perspective and understanding and reactions to the object observed), but in the observed object itself (since energy can be sensed if we know how, it isn't a question of whether we CAN sense it - only the level of our awareness). It doesn't matter if we KNOW we're being observed - our BODY knows it, not necessarily our conscious mind. If our bodies and minds weren't so clouded and disconnected by emotions and (here's that word again) societal concerns, we'd be more like animals - more natural - and would have much sharper senses, intuitions, etc. with which to "sense" someone observing us. You mention the "tool" doing the observation - let's take it back to its simplest form - I stare at you from across the room. You're reading a newspaper. I'm not using any tools...rather, yes I am - my eyes, my brain and my mind. If those are the tools you're referring to, then yes, those tools are what change the observed object. YOU are changing because I am observing you - you'll act differently once your awareness senses kick in. I'M changing because I'm forming mental images and opinions of you as I observe you. The rods and cones in my eyes are dancing around, my body is making physical adjustments to remain comfortable as I observe you. Those physical adjustments I'm making create a minute pressure wave or differential in the room - if you're "sensitive" enough you'll pick up those changes ("I feel a disturbance in the Force, Luke"). Finally, you might smell my cheap aftershave or hear my shoes squeak - then you'll finally look up and see me. As all of those sensory inputs trigger your alarm buttons, you'll be changing - your adrenaline will start flowing, you'll shift your position, your brain will change tracks and your sense will go on full alert. Intent is one of those things that science is ill-equipped to explain. I have experienced the effects of intent personally, many times. There are stories of famous swordsmen facing each other down in a duel without ever moving - just their stares are enough to defeat the opponent. A yell, produced at the right volume and pitch, can momentarily disable the nervous system - think flash-bangs. I was once the target of an attempted mugging in NYC - as the perp came in close I gave what I guess was a "HUH!" - but focused and from the lower core of my body, a sort of primitive warning growl or grunt like an enraged male deer might give. The perp actually stumbled backwards, looked perplexed, then took off. I trained in science and worked in science for many years - I know its strengths and its weaknesses. You have a very open-minded attitude - I can SENSE that. Don't blow it by buying into the myth of science being all there is to explain the universe. It does what it does very well - but it doesn't recognize its own shortcomings - namely, it won't acknowledge its inability to know the future. Science's standard response in those cases is, "We'll know eventually - it'll just take time and funding". No, uh-uhn - I don't agree. There are limits to what science can know, since they operate from a rigid sense of rules and believe that everything, everywhere has to follow those same rules. To advance, to truly evolve, you need to be flexible and open-minded - traits that are highly desirable (but rarely found anymore) in scientists - or most citizens, for that matter. Re: electron cloud - that might give you an idea of when my science training took place LOL!

Since our senses are composed of electronic impulses, I don't see what the hubbub is about changing what we observe. AS we observe, we're changing electronic clouds by the millions - as we're BEING observed, our senses pick up those altered clouds, either attracting or repelling them. Thus, changing us. *mutters* don't know why people have to make this so difficult...

Like a cup - its usefulness lies in its emptiness. I was just thinking this should be renamed The Viagra Thread...

Meh - used to be a lucky day - now it's just another day.

Now the question becomes - who is Zaphod and who is Humma?

Plus - we really don't know how much empty space Eye has in his... ...oh, never mind - even scientific inquiry has its limits.

There was once a Japanese warrior (the name escapes me at the moment) who came up with the line: "After the ten-thousandth time, still a beginner" A True Master (I'm gonna' trademark that puppy yet! LOL) rises in the morning and, like a good student, erases his mental chalkboard so that he can learn the day's lessons anew. Nothing is taken for granted, nothing is expected - he is a blank slate upon which experience can write. Granted. A Master makes it look deceptively easy until WE try to imitate them. Fair enough. I thought you were saying that love was by definition a fool's errand, rather than that you find yourself unsuited to it. Perhaps I misunderstood. (Me? Misunderstand? Imagine that! ) I'm not so much unsuited to it, as it to me. Explain this. Michelangelo chiseled his hunk 'David' out of a hunk of marble using his teeth? Actually, Mr. C. did a great job of explaining. (Yes, I agree :>P). The Mastery is not in the tools - it's in the Master. Tools are just that - tools. Il Divino could probably have created the Pieta with a spoon and a few sharp rocks, if need be. But common sense dictates, even to Masters, that you take advantage of whatever tools are at hand. I know he's a whiz with kiln-dried pine and Delta power tools, but is he conversant with wet, spongy, tropical tree trunks and a stone hand-adze? Probably more than me, that's for sure. But enough to call himself a Master in that situation? LOL - he'd still be more Masterful than me, let me assure you! I'd be putting palm fronds on the water, hoping to drift home on top of them... Again: Michelangelo as a beaver in the Petrified Forest. Mastery of a craft involves mastery of the tools: striving to do more with them, not striving to do without them. Actually, in my Taoist learnings and leanings, the idea is to REDUCE your need for tools - or for anything, for that matter. Hence my take on things like love and friendship. And I think mastery of a craft means just that - mastering the CRAFT, not necessarily the TOOLS. Yes, the craft will include tools - but you go beyond them - and I'll maintain that to my dying day. (Any time now *tapping foot* LOL) I think this might be one of the divides between Western and Eastern style thinking. Western tends to be immediate, outgoing and results-oriented - Eastern, long-term and introspective. Nice. Yeah, I've heard that bandied about before, but something still doesn't seem right with the stats. One of the things to check out is the sampling base - they only count people who (1) they give the questionnaire to, {2} actually RESPOND to the questionnaire, and (3) are probably older, more settled and less likely to be divorced. Stats are funny things - you can make them dance any tune you like if you're a Master of them. Just checking. You seem quite confident my glasses are rose-colored. Fair enough; guilty as charged. However, from my perspective, your goggles appear rather jaundiced. Having worn a pair of that approximate shade myself for a good part of my life, I dare to imagine I recognize a kindred pair. (In some ways, I wear the rosy ones on top of the others.) In Yang there is Yin; in Yin, Yang. Within your pretty glasses are a dark pair of welder's goggles; within my "Man Without Eyes" aviators are a cute pair of Elton John shades.

Interesting, up to this point- There's a glaring fallacy there - they're proceeding from a false assumption. They assume that everything in the Universe behaves in ways that they can and already do understand. Therefore, cognitive relativism is still valid.

A wonderful writer - hopefully he's chatting with Kilgore Trout now.

- I'm the same way with Bugs Bunny - I can quote verbatim from any of his hundreds of toons, but I have trouble zipping my fly. ... ...not THAT way...I mean....awww, hell...

ANY relationship? What about when a guy and a gal grow up together from childhood - they play together, go to school together - they're best of friends - and they finally tie the knot. Isn't it possible that there wasn't lust, or passion, fascination, adoration, sex... Just plain ol' buddies. Friends. Soul-mates, if you'll indulge me my favorite phrase. That might very well be the ultimate coupling, if there is such a beast. Eh...I tend to overemphasize certain points, granted... If your definition of love includes long-term stability and caring then yes, that's a go. Who am I to judge what's valid or not? Love can be and is both long- and short-term... "Man, I loved that movie!" ...or... "I've loved you all my life" To me, anytime you invoke human emotions you're getting into certain idealistic mindsets, along with their associated weaknesses and strengths. That's probably why I appear to be dismissing your comment (although I don't really mean to). Whew - this will be a long one, I fear... Of course, this will bugger the question, "what is romantic". That might well be left as a conversation for another few weeks in the future. :>) Of course I perceive it as possible - I've experienced it. Many times. I'm a romantic from way, way back. I wouldn't have a file cabinet full of love poems I've written to women over the years if I wasn't. It's only after my train-wreck of a philosophical awakening, coupled with a long string of nasty let-downs, that I've changed my tune. Call it bitter, if you like - there's probably a goodly amount of truth in that. But also call it personal experience, for that's exactly what it is. And if there's one thing I do well these days, it's learning from my experiences - good AND bad. What are the elements of it? Different for everyone, of course. My ideas and yours would probably differ quite a bit...my ideas and the next guy's might also. In fact, I'm pretty sure they would. But (and here, get ready to groan) a rose is still a rose. The effect that we're trying for is probably universally the same. Once again, all of us guys (I speak only for guys, for after all these years and experiences I STILL don't understand women - I just appreciate them) are going to the same place - just taking different paths. A very close friend of mine is married to a man for about ten years now. They got married with both of them defining their terms: he wanted a house slave - someone that would cook, clean and take care of the kid; she had to look good on his arm and not raise a fuss if he worked a lot of overtime. Her list was just as basic - she wanted someone to bring home the bacon, to provide the overhead. She was fine with that agreement at that time. Each had what they considered to be valid reasons for their desires - and who are we to say "Yea" or "Nay"? The word "love" never entered their equation. Yet their business bond now is almost as strong as when they first got married. Emotionally, they're both a wreck...but business agreement-wise, they're fine. Now, how many other conventionally-paired couples are the same way? Outwardly, they're Ward and June - inwardly, they're a mess. Sometimes, that mess is produced by the idea that they HAVE to stay together, for whatever reasons. To me, that goes against common-sense, and it especially goes against nature. Yet they think that love exacts such a price, so they flush their lives away, along with those nearest and dearest to them. As for the bearded guy that plays with tortoises - I think that's a totally different subject. Love and reproduction have nothing to do with each other - it's more likely the morality and rules drilled into the heads of people by the early Christian dogma that have kept that association going for so long. As we see now with the advent of high-tech, women don't even NEED a guy anymore to conceive. Where's the love/reproduce equation there? Purely logical, cold, and planned reproductions - and not a candle-lit dinner in the lot of them. LOL - it figures - the deepest, most philosophically-valid point I can agree with, and it comes from MAD magazine

wot an oximoron! Notice the statement is Absolute..... Nothing is not absolute? What can be more absolute than nothing? (I'm being cheeky.) Absolutely!

*steam comes out Phil's ears as a cartoon whistle effect is heard* And as the Chinese would say, in-between those two things are the ten thousand things...but go on... Lust, passion, etc. are not love, but see - because of societal conditioning, you make that connection. LOL "Love on broad alone" - I like that - can I get a franchise license on that? But ok - I'll grant you that initial attraction to another is often based on such physical longings. Continue, please... Meh - the same would be true in an ideal society - universal love, as my hippie friends would have said - but it didn't work then, and I see only very few instances of it working now. Whoa, my little head is spinning after THAT witch's brew! Maybe that's my problem, though - I don't resist, so my heart must be very weak. *slumps over computer keyboard suddenly* Well, I've always believed that you learn by doing, not by watching. Believe me, I've learned a lot. And what I write here is a partial sampling of what I've learned. As I said to Long Tom, I don't expect my views to be anything but amusement and, possibly, food for thought for one or two kindred souls. But if y'all DON'T listen to me and follow my rules, I'll be comin' for ya'!

I can and do avoid situations (when possible) where I can be hurt. Yet I consider myself masterful at resolving those very same situations when forced into them. Therefore, I avoid harmful things, yet know I am master of them. A true Master doesn't need to test himself constantly. He just Is, and is comfortable with that knowledge. Now if I were to avoid those situations out of irrational fear, then yes, that would be "bad". I avoid them, not because i fear them, but because I know what I am capable of doing - and do not wish to pay the price society demands for doing it. A master relies on his tools. A REAL Master goes beyond them - he NEEDS no tools to create his works (ie - Master-pieces). Norm Abrams is a Master Carpenter, right? Why? Because he's a whiz at using a band saw and a router? No - he's a Master Carpenter because he KNOWS THE PROCESS and HAS MUCHO EXPERIENCE. Sure, he USES the tools - but let me tell you, if I was stuck on a remote island with Norm and we had no tools at all, who do you think I would prefer to build a raft - me or him? A tool in the hands of a Master is just an extension of that Master. Handy, but not essential. Otherwise, it would be a crutch. Agreed. But the common conception, and even execution, of love is made up of those very pieces of baggage. Only rarely does true love happen, and with nowhere near the frequency as "conventional wisdom" would have you believe. I'm sorry, but I'm not here to persuade anyone of anything - merely reciting my own personal mantra for the enjoyment and, perhaps, mental stimulation of others. As for the color of my glasses - I've been using them intimately for over 49 years now - I have a small amount of experience with them, and they fit ME fine. I DON'T expect them to help the vision of anyone else, however.

LOL - the ball's in my court again, eh? *takes deep inhale* Okey-doke... Looks at it one way...looks at it another...looks from behind at it to see what it looks like writ backwards... I dunno. Looks pretty cynical from my perception of it. Nothing is absolute. Try this - suspend judgment for a moment... Overrated: love has been alluded to by poets (and Hallmark) as the single greatest thing in the Universe since sliced bread. It is claimed that it overcomes all and cannot be stopped. Look at these statements scientifically and rationally - are they not just platitudes? Over-hyped: Look at Valentine's Day - if THAT isn't pushing the concept of love to new lows, I don't know what is. Your lady won't love you unless you dump a load of cash on roses, diamonds and chocolate. Meanwhile, they have the nerve to stick little angels and animated hearts on their ads in the hopes that they'll trigger your kindergarten instincts and rush out to buy everything in sight. None of it has anything to do with love. Hearts? What does a heart have to do with love??? It's the MIND that controls the emotions, not the heart. (Chinese medical theories notwithstanding LOL) Underachieved: Can you count on one hand the number of people you know that have failed in love? It would take me a Cray computer and a few years to count them all. Yes, some "conquer" their loneliness and aloneness and "find love"; the rest are leading lives of quiet desperation (to steal a quote). Expectation-filled: This is perhaps the most insidious trait of all. Tell me you don't automatically gain new expectations when you "fall in love"..."Oh, the sunrise is SOOOOoooo beautiful this morning...life is SOOOOooo wonderful...everything's coming up roses!" Then they get hit by the runaway 18-wheeler... People for the most part expect love to last forever - they even frequently claim that it lives on beyond the grave. When the love changes, as everything must, they act all surprised and upset - *weeping* "I thought he'd love me forever..." NOTHING is forever, but don't tell that to the diamond merchants. They want you to believe in that myth so you keep buying those slave-labor rocks. Power, like everything else, can be real and illusory at the same time. Often, true power is confused with the ability to muscle through obstacles, or to feel good when you normally would not. That isn't power - that's channeling your intent. If that's a form of power, so be it. But I wouldn't want to rely solely upon the power I had gained from love to lift a refrigerator or overcome an assailant. ExACTLY what I think. Eh - you took the wind out of my sails on this point by understanding me LOL! A valid interpretation, IMHO. Just, I see "hiding from danger" as impossible. It's reducing the odds that I'm most concerned with...so by being a hermit, the chances of danger coming calling are reduced. Not eliminated...just reduced. Sometimes, all you need is a few percentage points to get by. Totally agree. OK - good explanation - thank you.

Not cynicism. Realism. Cynicism is what an optimist calls it when they disagree. But it isn't necessarily so. It's just opposite of what the optimist sees. In this case, realism. No, actually my primary "complaint" (actually, my observation) is that it is possible to do without it, and gain benefits in the doing. Not everybody uses everyone else, BTW. And yes, I'm doing exactly what you said - I'm focusing upon certain elements of the equation, but because not many others focus upon the same ones in the same way, or haven't the experiences to draw upon as I have, they fall back on labels such as "negative" or "cynical". I agreed 100% with this entire paragraph until this final line. It's a non-realistic view of things - for a certain time period, avoiding danger is indeed far safer than exposure. Else, my teachings of danger avoidance and verbal de-escalation skills would be worthless - which, experience has shown, are not. Quotes are wonderful addendums to conversations such as this, but the problem with them is that you need to understand the EXACT circumstances in which they were uttered, otherwise they're pretty much window dressing. And once you learn something to the max, as the Taoists say, you do your best to UNlearn it. Otherwise, all you're doing in this limited life is carrying around un-needed baggage. I'll check that link out and give my cyn...um, informed opinion. ;>P Yep. The original line of this thread, lo these many words ago, was about mastery. I maintain that making the effort to divorce yourself from such things as friendship and love can be beneficial in terms of mastering yourself. If you are not reliant upon or addicted to something, you are the master of it. In order to achieve this, however, you have to peer deep inside the thing and see its true nature.

Sorry - I didn't mean to imply that. Of course there are always alternatives. Romantic love maybe, but unconditional love never. Ahh - I wondered when someone was going to define terms. Well put. Eh, maybe "power" wasn't a good word to use. I meant the "power" to be complete unto yourself, without the need to add any externals. Not "power" in the sense of "having it over" someone. Then go for it. I don't mean to tell anyone how to live - I'm just relating what I do. Just know that whatever you do in life to make you happy, I think you need to recognize the dangers before you do it. "What-if" planning, I call it with my martial arts students. Gah! NO, NO, I didn't mean that! *quickly pouring French vanilla / hazelnut cappuccino down the drain* I think you knew I meant, were both here on Earth. Well, I try not to assume that I know what someone means...

Yes, but if you don't let on you're that much more protected, right? How does what you do in this regard (ie - loving freely) cause others to love you? What if you're a right proper ba$tard, but you love people in your own way - does that mean others will automatically love you? I'm sure you have certain personal examples in mind, just as I do - mine is of the hippies back in the day spouting "free love", "make love not war" and "I love you, man - I really love you!" LOL. What happened to that movement? They grew up. They realized that free love was a sham, an ideal that couldn't be reached because of the basic nature of people. They learned that they were taken advantage of when they offered unconditional love. What? What will I lose? I still think it can. I have also, but I've always understood that to be my OWN failure - the failure of not being complete in and of myself - needing someone or something else to be whole. THAT was the problem - not the lack of love, but the lack of self-sufficiency and self-love. Rewards such as...? If you never come outdoors, you will indeed never be hit by a bus. Unless, of course, the bus comes through your living room window one day - something that has happened on occasion in this mixed-up world. If I choose not to go to malls and hang out, for example - my chances of being accosted by some mall-rats are reduced to practically zero. If I don't drive, my chances of being hit by a drunk driver are reduced considerably. It's all about what you want, what you need, and what you're willing to pay for either one. Funny you should mention children - mine are one of my last indulgences. All this theory breaks down when it comes to them, but even then I can step back and look at others - what has happened in their lives with THEIR children - when they totally stop loving those children (for whatever reason). The actions that usually led to their spurning their kids were strong enough that the lost love was not felt as a loss, but as a gain. Sick, perhaps, at least on external appearances - but if you were in their situation you might very well agree. As for how one views the world when in love and/or when loving - sorry, that's the "Rose-Colored Glasses" syndrome. The world is still what it is at that moment - it's your perceptions that have changed. Sort of like the people that read only the "Good Times News" newspaper - it has only good and happy news, nothing bad, so you're filled with the idea that the world is a wonderful place. Likewise, I could spend my time reading "The Mountain Man's Nasty Newsletter" and view the world as a place full of danger and unrest. One of my goals is to see the world as it IS, not how I'd LIKE it to be or how it appears with various filters placed over it. LOL - huzzah for Scrooge! (pre-conversion model, that is).