Why does having a pet cause so much heartache when they die? I just had to put my cat Toby of almost 15 years down in the wee hours of Monday the 6th. He had kidney problems, it happened so quickly. I was taking care of him since Friday the 3rd, with meds from my vet. He started showing signs that maybe he'd be okay, but then around midnight on Monday he was crying out and having trouble breathing. I rushed him to the animal urgent care. They did what they could, but he was failing so fast. It was so painful to watch him suffer so I gave the okay to put him down. I had done this before with my dog who was dying of cancer years ago, it's so damn painful. I've cried so much my eyes were swollen. It's also sad to see the other cat, Jasmine, look around for him. I'm sure she knows what's going on, she was laying down next to him and hanging around him when he was sick. Ugh, so much pain over our furry children......