What do you like in your Pirate?

[Patrick Hand]

"Holding out for a Hero":

I like the version in Shrek II better..... the boys storming the castle.....

Dang.... when I listen to that song, I just wanna find a Princess to go and rescue.....

I know it's just a song..... but it makes me want to do something Heroic.... Big bold and brave..... alla the storybook things I've ever read.....

Sure, it's silly...... but that don't change it........

[Red Cat Jenny]

Awwww....Patrick..

That's not silly at all..

I hope you find yerself one an she's worth it

[LongTom]

However theres nothing saying either party can't add a little spice. No need to be boring..just responsible.

Never said otherwise. A good relationship is not a boring one. I just don't think we should be particularly shocked at the divorce rate, when we hold up the model of the faithful family man as an object of not very subtle contempt.

I have a friend whose husband left her and the kids a few years ago, and has been putting her through emotional hell. And you know what? It's EXACTLY what Jack Sparrow would have done.

BTW, it's 16 years for me and the missus.

[Red-Handed Jill]

You don't marry Jack Sparrow types. You flirt and play with them and then marry the good guy. That's what a rational, intelligent woman would do.

That being said, not every woman always makes rational choices. She might have had a lousy childhood, which would have a real impact on her choice in men. Or at a certain point in her life she chooses not to make a rational choice.

Also, I haven't noticed any contempt for family men. Trust me on this - when women talk with each other and one of them says that her husband is loyal, helps out around the house and is a good family man, the other women are envious.

[LongTom]

Also, I haven't noticed any contempt for family men.  Trust me on this - when women talk with each other and one of them says that her husband is loyal, helps out around the house and is a good family man, the other women are envious.

I'm thinking more in the media. Married women have good sense. Especially when some of them have been burned. But commercials, movies, etc., I see very few positive depictions.

On the other hand...

You don't marry Jack Sparrow types. You flirt and play with them and then marry the good guy. That's what a rational, intelligent woman would do.

Yeah, and once you're ready, you can get the good guy's attention by dusting the cobwebs off his dessicated skeleton.

[Red-Handed Jill]

Yeah, but women are still objectified in the media and are often shown as victims and women are neither victims nor prizes to be won by the victorious man.

And I've often thought that men should be insulted by how they are portrayed in commercials. They are usually shown to be incompetent boobs who can't do anything right. But we know that it's not usually the case. (Although there are guys who are incompetent boobs and women who are strictly decorative. We can't all be icons of reason and competence.)

[Cpt Sophia M Eisley]

I'm still holding out for a pirate (of the male variety) with a brain and a sense of humor. One who can carry on a good conversation, philosophize and joke around comfortably would be nice.

[LongTom]

Good luck on that, too.

[BessFlint]

when you find one like that.... can you see if he has a brother!!

[Patrick Hand]

I can see it now.....

A Pyrate Dating Service......

SWMP ISO SFP.  'ave most O' me teeth. Tall and thin, long greasy brown hair. Likes long moonlit walks on th' beach, pilliging an' plunderin'

<Hey exactly 25 words....... >

[DocF225]

Doc's pouring??

what more could a woman with a large thirst want?? :) 3 hours mowing the grass and I need some aloe put on.. any chance that transporter is working yet?

nice to see you, Doc, and the kitty.. is nuetered. NOT so lucky.

Dammit-all, I missed the chance to spread aloe on Merry...

Ok....Poor Kitty...ouch.....

[Red Cat Jenny]

That he smells lightly of black powder, rum and a little cologne. mmmm. Aye..

[Merrydeath]

that he has fingers and lips,

and the imagination and desire to play with me often.

that he likes to have it reciprocated too.

That he likes to just snuggle and appreciate that someone wants you for being you, and not what you can do for them. (I think that made sense. Time for bed!)

[DocF225]

that he has fingers and lips,

and the imagination and desire to play with me often.

that he likes to have it reciprocated too.

That he likes to just snuggle and appreciate that someone wants you for being you, and not what you can do for them. (I think that made sense. Time for bed!)

Hmmmmm,

*Counts "1,2,3,4,5 yup that's one hand" - "6, 7, 8, 9, 10 ok both hands", checks a mirror, "yep lips still in place and operational"*

Now, anyplace in particular ye'd like me to use these?

A desire to play wi Merry? Wot, ar ye kidding? If'n a man don't ha that desire, somebody call the surgeon to check his pulse.

And she's off again....

[Merrydeath]

you, Doc, are the best intoxicating beverage I know.. one sip of your charm and cajones (so to speak) and it lifts my heart.. and possibly my skirt. You make this old girl right frisky, and left frustrated.

and off to bed.. alone again. (pouts)

[Red Cat Jenny]

He's juuuuuust naughty enough ....yeah

[DocF225]

you, Doc, are the best intoxicating beverage I know.. one sip of your charm and cajones (so to speak) and it lifts my heart.. and possibly my skirt. You make this old girl right frisky, and left frustrated.

and off to bed.. alone again. (pouts)

Glad to be of service Luv...

and of course...I am all about liftin yer skirt dearie...

* awaits the tankard being hurled at his head*

[LadyBarbossa]

Tis always interesting to read this thread, what to do, etc.

Honestly for me... here I am.. 33 years old, not married, etc. Perhaps I'm not the greatest woman in the world and defintely no Angelina Jolie (thank God). But, I'm not the woman who will cheat, nor will I do drugs, nor will I dump the kids off somewhere and go drinking or leave the kids with ya, etc. I have my problem areas, what person doesn't have them. But I do what I can, how I can, to work through them. Even if it takes a few years.

All I ever asked for was someone willing to enjoy life with me, to share some of the same passions in life.

I know I don't ever want someone like my Bro in Law. Nor am I looking for some Jack Sparrow or James Bond. I just want someone who wants a life with someone, willing to work out anything and not give up saying it's too hard when it's not.

Again, a friend told me... what is it about them you are willing to tolerate and what is it about them you will NOT tolerate?

If you like something I don't fancy, I could perhaps tolerate it. And I hope vice versa.

Patrick... Bo... I think some of us ladies share your similar issues.

But I guess, I have to ask myself a question every day... what is it about ME that won't allow me to have the dream I want?

MerryD... if men are that intimidated by my hobbies and who I am, what I do, etc... then... well, my words are not all that kind.

I'm admit I am old fashion. I believe in man making the moves. Not I. I know that sounds shallow of me, but... it's true. Now, if I think he's worthy, I will give him more than a chance.

No... heartache does NOT make one stronger. It just continues to hurt. That's all it does. And honestly, no offense to all out there who assisted to help me out... I guess if you get over someone and forget about them, etc. Apparently you didn't Love them. Cause I know and have read Love Stories, talked to people, etc. People who are in Love will NEVER get over that person once they are gone. There is always that void. Whether it's your Grandpa and Grandma passed away a few years before ( or vice versa)... or if it's a young teen... or some fictional character like Davy Jones. Cause that person made such an influence upon the other in every level.

OK.. I'm jumping off my ranting soap box...

~Lady B

[Red Cat Jenny]

Oh..bits of wool, leather, pewter buttons, salt and rum.

And the smile of a rogue..

Everything Pirate

[Red-Handed Jill]

Lady B - I think that depends on what you mean by "gone". If they died while you were still in love, then yes, the odds are you will always love them.

But for a lot of us, the ability to get over someone does not mean we didn't ever love them in the first place. I was truly in love with my ex; at the time I felt as if he was the love of my life. But, as sometimes happens, life dealt us a few jabs and each of us handled the situation differently. Eventually, we decided that it would be best for us to part. It took a LONG time to get over him, but I did eventually get over him - completely.

To suggest that because I was able to get over him meant that I never loved him would be incorrect. If that were the case, I wouldn't have been capable of getting into another relationship with all of those unresolved feelings. No one would be any good in a second or third relationship if we could never get over our first love.

The heart is a wacky thing, but pretty resilient. Real heartache does take time to get through, but you do get through it.

[Red Cat Jenny]

Eyes I can get lost in..sigh

[Cheeky Actress]

They have to be breathing, and don't paw me....

[Capt. Sterling]

They have to be breathing, and don't paw me....

breathing? gee you're starting to sound a bit desperate...

[Cheeky Actress]

1930s radio drama theme music begins to play in the background

"Last we left our damsel in distress, Mistress Lilly McKinney found herself out on the street in that cold, cruel world of Port Royal, Jamaica. Who will save her…who will come to her need….”

Yup...I'd say that desperate would be right!

Okay...Blonde, breathing and doesn't paw me...'kay?

[Red Cat Jenny]

Cheeky, Blonde, breathing and doesn't paw you...and has eyes you can get lost in?