Mission Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 I'm just curious - what does the friends function do for us? I don't get it. Is it just a warm fuzzies thing? (Seriously, I'm genuinely curious.) Mycroft: "My brother has the brain of a scientist or a philosopher, yet he elects to be a detective. What might we deduce about his heart?" John: "I don't know." Mycroft: "Neither do I. But initially he wanted to be a pirate." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hurricane Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 It's like the Friends function on MySpace. Yup, Warm fuzzies! After all, aren't we all friends here and wouldn't we just add everyone? -- Hurricane -- Hurricane ______________________________________________________________________ http://piratesofthecoast.com/images/pyracy-logo1.jpg Captain of The Pyrates of the Coast Author of "Memoirs of a Buccaneer: 30 Year Before the Mast" (Published in Fall 2011) Scurrilous Rogue Stirrer of Pots Fomenter of Mutiny Bon Vivant & Roustabout Part-time Carnival Barker Certified Ex-Wife Collector Experienced Drinking Companion "I was screwed. I readied my confession and the sobbing pleas not to tell my wife. But as I turned, no one was in the bed. The room was empty. The naked girl was gone, like magic." "Memoirs of a Buccaneer: 30 Years Before the Mast" - Amazon.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capt. Sterling Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 hell no "I being shot through the left cheek, the bullet striking away great part of my upper jaw, and several teeth which dropt down the deck where I fell... I was forced to write what I would say to prevent the loss of blood, and because of the pain I suffered by speaking."~ Woodes Rogers Crewe of the Archangel http://jcsterlingcptarchang.wix.com/creweofthearchangel# http://creweofthearchangel.wordpress.com/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mission Posted October 30, 2008 Author Share Posted October 30, 2008 It's like the Friends function on MySpace. Yup, Warm fuzzies!After all, aren't we all friends here and wouldn't we just add everyone? -- Hurricane Well that was kind of my feeling. My Space is all spread out and finding people there is a pain in the arse if you don't know what to look for from my limited experience with it. So the friends function can serve as a method of linkage there. Here, I don't see where we have that issue. (It could even be sort of divisive unfortunately.) Sounds like a function I don't desperately need the use of, at any rate. Everybody's my friend. (Anyone remember the old Kansas song by that title?) Mycroft: "My brother has the brain of a scientist or a philosopher, yet he elects to be a detective. What might we deduce about his heart?" John: "I don't know." Mycroft: "Neither do I. But initially he wanted to be a pirate." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rev.Sam Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 Yarr, I be agreein with ye lads on this'un Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Graydog Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 I'm just curious - what does the friends function do for us? I don't get it. Is it just a warm fuzzies thing? (Seriously, I'm genuinely curious.) It doesn't help you much unless your name is Jennifer Anniston. Why am I sharing my opinion? Because I am a special snowflake who has an opinion of such import that it must be shared and because people really care what I think! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 Friends....ewwww..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hawk the QM Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 (edited) Friends....ewwww..... Pirates don't have friends.... we have potential victims that we know pretty well but still like. edit: Yaaar! I guarantee you that if you add me as a friend. you WILL feel all fuzzy inside. Probably your brain telling you yer about to get plundered Edited October 30, 2008 by Thequartermaster Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Duchess Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 Friends....ewwww..... Pirates don't have friends.... we have potential victims that we know pretty well but still like. edit: Yaaar! I guarantee you that if you add me as a friend. you WILL feel all fuzzy inside. Probably your brain telling you yer about to get plundered Hmm not exactly the reason I generally associate with feeling fuzzy.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stynky Tudor Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 Originally the Friends feature was slated to be edited from the system software, I didn't care much for the idea of inclusion exclusion politic stuff on a message board meant to build community. However a few people commented how they liked the feature, plus it looks to be tangled up with the Block function - so I dropped it off my todo list. The nice thing is that it puts the power to Block harassing PM contact into the hands of users that want - need it, without necessarily having to ask Admin to step in and get involved. To be honest, I didn't even realize how the whole Friends thing worked until Jamaica Rose worked it all out during a phone conversation we were having. If I understand it correctly - everyone can be your friend, you can be everyone's friend, but to be real friends for those bothering to pay attention you have to mutually ask to be friends. Does that sound right Jamaica? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mission Posted October 30, 2008 Author Share Posted October 30, 2008 Hmm. I think my policy henceforth will be to only add people to my friends list who don't want me to add them as friends. (So no one should be offended if I don't add them as a friend.) Mycroft: "My brother has the brain of a scientist or a philosopher, yet he elects to be a detective. What might we deduce about his heart?" John: "I don't know." Mycroft: "Neither do I. But initially he wanted to be a pirate." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oderlesseye Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 (edited) (So no one should be offended if I don't add them as a friend.) Thats why my "Friends" Box is empty .. equal treatment ~ equal share Beside ..my friends know whom they are. Edited October 30, 2008 by oderlesseye http://www.myspace.com/oderlesseyehttp://www.facebook....esseye?ref=nameHangin at Execution dock awaits. May yer Life be a long and joyous adventure in gettin there!As he was about to face the gallows there, the pirate is said to have tossed a sheaf of papers into the crowd, taunting his audience with these final words: "My treasure to he who can understand." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Cat Jenny Posted October 30, 2008 Share Posted October 30, 2008 Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple... This does help with spammers tho Ill agree there. I'll be yer friend...how much coin ya got in them pokets? Some days even my lucky rocketship underpants won't help.... Her reputation was her livelihood. I'm a pirate, love. By nature and by choice! My inner voice sometimes has an accent! My wont? A delicious rip in time... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ransom Posted December 9, 2008 Share Posted December 9, 2008 After careful consideration, I have decided to eliminate my "Friends" list. It just sounded a bit elitist to me, and like Eyes, I know who my friends are, and my friends know me. In all honesty, I think of everyone on the Pub as my friend. So, if you get a notice that I have taken you off my friends list, it does NOT mean that you are no longer my friend, it just means that I don't need a list to remind me who they are. ...schooners, islands, and maroons and buccaneers and buried gold... You can do everything right, strictly according to procedure, on the ocean, and it'll still kill you. But if you're a good navigator, a least you'll know where you were when you died.......From The Ship Killer by Justin Scott. "Well, that's just maddeningly unhelpful."....Captain Jack Sparrow Found in the Ruins — Unique Jewelry Found in the Ruins — Personal Blog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RustyNell Posted December 9, 2008 Share Posted December 9, 2008 If this board grows to outrageous numbers - after Nikki Bayley writes about us in the London Mirror, it may actually be a nice feature to keep track of the people you actually have met. Basically that's what I thought. I just noticed the feature and have been frantically adding everyone I've been lucky enough to meet in person. Its kind of a neat way to keep track of people you know. Not that any of you i haven't met yet are less important or friendly. anyway i don't see it as inclusionary I see it as a way for us folks with HORRIBLE memories to keep track of who we've already met so we know who we still need to meet. Just my take on it. “PIRACY, n. Commerce without its folly-swaddles, just as God made it.” Ambrose Bierce Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pew Posted December 9, 2008 Share Posted December 9, 2008 I vote bacon. , Skull and Quill Society , The Watch Dog "We are 21st Century people who play a game of dress-up and who spend a lot of time pissing and moaning about the rules of the game and whether other people are playing fair." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyBarbossa Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Apparently there is a limit to who to befriend, cause apparently not everyone who I befriended and vice versa is not on my list. Pity. All in all, it's not too bad of a feature. Those who wish to will use it. Otherwise, others won't use it. ~Lady B Tempt Fate! an' toss 't all t' Hell!" "I'm completely innocent of whatever crime I've committed." The one, the only,... the infamous! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackjohn Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 I vote bacon. Here here! My Home on the Web The Pirate Brethren Gallery Dreams are the glue that holds reality together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mary Diamond Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 If this board grows to outrageous numbers - after Nikki Bayley writes about us in the London Mirror, it may actually be a nice feature to keep track of the people you actually have met. Basically that's what I thought. I just noticed the feature and have been frantically adding everyone I've been lucky enough to meet in person. Its kind of a neat way to keep track of people you know. Not that any of you i haven't met yet are less important or friendly. anyway i don't see it as inclusionary I see it as a way for us folks with HORRIBLE memories to keep track of who we've already met so we know who we still need to meet. Just my take on it. Agreed ~ though I will be using it more for quick contact access. Oooh, shiny! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ransom Posted December 10, 2008 Share Posted December 10, 2008 Lady B's statement is exactly why I decided to stop using the list. You might forget to put someone on, and they will be hurt because they weren't included. Someone puts you on their list, and is disappointed if you don't return the favor, even if it's someone you normally don't have a whole lot of communication with. Also, at this point, I wasn't using the list for anything, since I'm not a heavy PMer anyway. Like I said before, I consider everyone on the Pub to be my friend, to one extent or the other, and the people with whom I interact all the time know who they are, and don't feel slighted because they are not on some arbitrary list of "friends." That's just the way it works for me. For others, obviously, it's a totally different thing. And that's fine. ...schooners, islands, and maroons and buccaneers and buried gold... You can do everything right, strictly according to procedure, on the ocean, and it'll still kill you. But if you're a good navigator, a least you'll know where you were when you died.......From The Ship Killer by Justin Scott. "Well, that's just maddeningly unhelpful."....Captain Jack Sparrow Found in the Ruins — Unique Jewelry Found in the Ruins — Personal Blog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackjohn Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 It was a new bell and/or whistle to futz around with when this new edition of the Pub came along. Honestly, without looking I couldn't even tell you who is in my friends list. Here's a question, consider it rhetorical if you like. Can someone you don't know in a physical sense really be your friend? (one of those things I ponder to no end...) My Home on the Web The Pirate Brethren Gallery Dreams are the glue that holds reality together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mission Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 Here's a question, consider it rhetorical if you like. Can someone you don't know in a physical sense really be your friend?(one of those things I ponder to no end...) Oh goody... Can someone you do know in a physical sense really your friend? How far, physically, do you need to know them for them to be your friend? Is sight enough? Discourse? Contact of some form? Hugging? (I'll bet pirates didn't hug all that much. We are not being PC... :angry: ) What is friendship, really, if not a form mutual attraction? Is physical presence required for such? For example, I would consider you, blackjohn, to be an on-line friend of mine. We share many common interests, intellectual meanderings and certainly philosophical views. Of course, not having met you, I might immediately be put off by something about you in person that you either misrepresent or cannot represent on-line. Suppose this was so. Would we not still have common interests, intellectual meanderings and philosophical views in common? Could we still not share a platonic mutual attraction? Having just stumbled out of a Social Psychology final last night, let me share a bit about attraction, since it is the foundation upon (at least in this long-winded argument) friendship is supposedly built. Soc.Psych research finds there are five reasons we chose friends: 1. Proximity - Physical proximity, which sort of supports the tenets of your original point. 2. Association - What do we associate people with? I associate you with the pub and philosophy. I like the pub and philosophy. Ergo, I like you. (It's not quite that simple, of course. My own equations for attraction are so arcane and complex that I don't understand them, but you get the point.) 3. Similarity - Many social psychologists give a lot of weight to similarity. We will almost certainly find people similar to us here and thus form friendships on that basis. 4. Reciprocal Liking - We like people who like us. I can remember way back in nineteen ought eighteen when you, Phil and I were discussing life, the universe and everything and you said something like, (and it's been deleted now by the geniuses at large, so I can pretend to quote it accurately when -in fact - I am not) "Mission, when, not if, we meet, I am going to buy you a shot of your favorite single malt scotch." (Glenmorangie 18yo, in case you were wondering.) and I thought to myself, "I like this fellow!" 5. Physical Attractiveness - We tend to like people who are more attractive to us than not. (Note this doesn't necessarily have to have the sexual connotation we usually assign it.) You may think this is not possible on the 'net, but, being re-enactors, we tend to have scads of photos of ourselves in our kit and thus I have a distinct impression of what you look like and judge you to be attractive as a fellow re-enactor. (But don't let that get out, it will ruin my reputation. :angry: ) Now this isn't a checklist, it's just some things that attract people to each other, which how most friendships start. So you can have some of these elements and not others and still find each other appealing. So I say we can be remote, non-contact, on-line friends. (This material will be on the exam. ) Mycroft: "My brother has the brain of a scientist or a philosopher, yet he elects to be a detective. What might we deduce about his heart?" John: "I don't know." Mycroft: "Neither do I. But initially he wanted to be a pirate." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackjohn Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 HA! I knew I'd get a fun answer from you Mission! My Home on the Web The Pirate Brethren Gallery Dreams are the glue that holds reality together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mission Posted December 11, 2008 Author Share Posted December 11, 2008 Well, you did prime me. (You could prime me even better with 18yo Glenmorangie.) Mycroft: "My brother has the brain of a scientist or a philosopher, yet he elects to be a detective. What might we deduce about his heart?" John: "I don't know." Mycroft: "Neither do I. But initially he wanted to be a pirate." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diosa De Cancion Posted December 11, 2008 Share Posted December 11, 2008 Oh goody... That was a great list! I It has me thinking... I really must work now, but I also find that there are some people I meet that I just get a 'positive energy' from (for lack of a better term) and want to talk to. Others have the opposite effect and I tend to try to keep a wide distance... despite the fact that others find them nice and 'friendly'. Then there are the people who keep walking by...staying about 10-20 feet away(acting as if I have the plague) and say I never invite them over to have snacks... oh wait, that's just Mission.... Diosa De Cancion aka Mary Read www.iammaryread.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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