Whoa Mickey...I am glad to hear you're okay. What a horrible thing to happen. I had a nasty accident with my mini van back in 2007, so I know what it's like. At first it's very surreal...until you see the damage up close.
Though I do not make it a habit, I can tell you if your 'frame' is bent...it is likely they will total the car. But more important...you are okay...your wife has you at home tonight...safe and sound.
It really didn't hit me (what could have truly happened to me) until I went to clean out my car at the impound lot. I stood looking at what was left of my Dodge mini-van and broke down and cried for about 1/2 hour. I walked away with a bruised elbow and knee. VERY blessed indeed.
Oh, and if you're wondering what I hit...I hit a BMW convertible. Yes, if you're going to do it...DO IT BIG!
I'm Happy that you doing okay.